Swanand

Today's topic is about increasing formal nature in us. In US, we don't visit anyone's house without calling them in advance. That culture has slowly come down to Mumbai. But in Vasai still we have this fun when an unexpected guest arrives and you have fantastic chat with him for hours disturbing your schedule.

Are we becoming too tied up with clock losing our ability to readjust schedule with slight disturbance? I can stretch this further. In US you live life by rules. You drive by rules and probability is that you will rarely involve in accident. You go to grocery shop and you get same quality of vegetables for years together. You get advance 1 day notice of guest, hurricane, snowstorm. You brain is slowly formatted for following simple instructions. But then when it comes to marriage, it is for the first time a US person is sharing his/her space with another living being who not necessarily comes with predictable behavior. As a result they may find it difficult to cope up with marriage experience. From few examples which I have seen, the second marriages are successful for those guys as they are now ready to deal with uncertainty in their life. This is completely my opinion and as a reader you may disagree with it in all probability.

My point is as Indians we need to maintain our ability to face uncertainty, make adjustment in our personal life. This will make us more stronger in life. This is reason I support joint families. I will give you one example, in job one makes a lot of adjustments as we don't have other alternatives. But in joint family we don't stay together because we can't make simple adjustments with our own relatives and that too just because we have alternative. By doing so we end up depriving our kids from most pleasant experience of growing up in a fantastic surrounding.

Another thing on which we are fast losing out is our ability to face rejection or lack of attention. Our earlier generation was never in need of so much attention, but we always need attention. We avoid the the place where we don't get attention.

Look at me, I am writing this blog with very few comments received. But that won't stop me from writing it on frequent basis. The goal is to keep on writing for a while. There was a sentence in our 10th standard Marathi book. Swanand he kaviche mothe paritoshik aahe - For a poet the self satisfaction is the biggest trophy. Even if 10% of the stuff is worth reading then may be at the end of year, I would have written some 30 pages of decent material. And that won't be bad at all!

Finally wishing you all happy watching of IPL season III - Aditya